Saturday, November 28, 2009

S's Guest Post

Hmmm...  Well, Jennifer has asked me to do a post for her.  Problem is, as you probably guessed, I am not sure what to say.  I am not a mommy, not female (obviously) and likely don't share as many commonalities with the readers here as comfort would hope.  I guess the one thing we do have in common, though, is Jennifer herself...though I am pretty sure, or at least hope, that I am more familiar with her than those reading.

I could start off declaring her the best mother ever, or the best wife or even the best person.  All of those things are subjective, though.  I can say, with great certainty, however, that she is the best possible wife for me. 
Believe it or not, I am not perfect.  (I know.  That's hard to believe...especially given her previous relationships.)  I can be be stubborn, moody, hardheaded (even bullheaded) and the list goes on.  In spite of me, though, she still loves me.  She has often said that I deserve better than her.  I can honestly say, without any concern of departing the truth, that I got the best end of this deal.  She loves me...without condition, in spite of me...and, yes, in some ways because of me.  And that is something that I question whether or not I deserve...or ever could.
For over 10 years now, I have gone to sleep every night with her cuddled up with me, and awakened to her lying next to me (unless she happened to get up before me, which is rare).  For over 10 years, she has forgiven my failings and overlooked my shortcomings.  She has loved me, for me.

When I look back over the nightmare that was much of her life, I am awestruck that she is even sane.  That she can still love so wholly is nothing short of miraculous. 
That I can not make all the negative of her past simply go away is my greatest torment.  When I bought that ticket, 10 years, 1 month and 2 weeks ago, I knew I was "saving" her from something bad.  Unfortunately, what I can "rescue" her from is limited to the outside.  Though I assure you, were God to grant me the avenue, there is no demon that I would not face for her.  For her, my wife, my love, the most loving and forgiving woman I have ever known. 
And if I had to describe her with one word, that would be it...Love.  Whatever her own shortcomings, whether as a wife or mother (and yes, there are very few), the one thing that is never absent is love.  No matter how down, frustrated or agitated she may be...whether it is with me or the children...there is never an absence of love.  And because of that, more than any other reason, she is a wonderful wife, a wonderful mother and a wonderful person.

She, of course, would disagree with my description of her.  That's okay.  That is part of who she is.  Fortunately, I get to see her without having to peer through the dark glass of her past.

14 comments:

Jennifer said...

For the record, I did ask S to post today. I did not ask for or expect this! I think he has way too good a view of me, but I wouldn't want to change it! I know how lucky I am to have a man who loves me, even though he knows all of me.

Robin in Montana said...

Would that everyone could be as lucky to have that kind of unconditional love in their lives. That was amazing. :*)

Christy said...

What a sweet post Jennifer. You have a good man.

won said...

Damn....

Okay, a question and then a statement.

S, do you have any single and available brothers that are cut from the same cloth as you?

I am touched by the depth of your love and the unconditional - or is it nonexistent - parameters of it. I am glad the two of you have each other. In that, you are all so blessed but it sounds like I certainly don't need to tell you that.

Thank you for the guest post. It is touching.

S said...

Actually, won, I do have a brother. He is married...I just haven't figured out why :)

He is a really good man. And that is not a compliment that I often utter. I would say that he is a better father than I am, but Jennifer chastises me for it.

While imperfect, like the rest of us, he is just one of those people that, if you need someone who will do the right thing, you turn to.

My Life Is This said...

Jennifer - hang on tight to that man. What a wonderful, sweet husband you have. I think you are both lucky.

Suze said...

Jennifer
What a sweet post and such a gift from S to you!

S
You are a good man. I can tell from your words the depth of love you have for Jennifer. She is very lucky to have you!

Have a peaceful evening and enjoy your time together!

Erin Lutz said...

Wow. What a wonderful post. You are both very lucky to have each other. I hope one day my daughters find a man as sweet as S.

Deb in MD said...

S - that is a very sweet post. Look out, Jennifer may ask you to post more often now!

Jae said...

I love this post. I wish everyone could be as lucky as both of you are! Including ME! Thank you for posting this. It was a real pleasure to read!

Southern Woman said...

What a sweet post, Jennifer's husband! I don't know your wife well, but know from her story that she is truly a remarkable survivor. And now I know she has a remarkable husband too!

Regards,

Angie

Anemone Pie said...

Oh, my goodness, this was so good to read. What a terrific husband to write it and obviously mean it, but what a great wife he has to make him feel this way!

By the way, Won struck out on the brother thing but does S have a sister? ;-)

Ami said...

Late in reading this, but it definitely warrants a comment.

What a beautiful, well-written post. It sounds like you two are great for each other, and blessed to have found one another when you did. :)

Dawn said...

While I'm behind in my commenting, I just had to take a moment to comment on this post.

I echo all the "wows" and "damns" when it comes to what a great post. It's so amazing to see you through the eyes of your husband and to feel the love come through in typed out words. What a great couple you make.

P.S. Your "big bully" comment on my blog made me laugh.

 

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